Good enough. This is something that I have struggled with since I was a little girl. I wanted to make sure I was a good daughter, sister, friend. I always wanted that reassurance that I was doing a good job.
I think when you are a perfectionist it is really hard to feel like you are doing a good job in roles that don’t have black and white grades/achievements. I think that is why it is so hard for us to not sit and compare ourselves. You see how “great” others are doing but have to remind your self that is just a snippet of the whole picture. This perfectionism has carried into my marriage, motherhood and I even still struggle wondering if I am a good daughter, sister and friend.
I always want to make sure I am a good listener, providing the right affirmations to what my friends and family crave. I struggle balancing being a good listener but also giving out advice and not taking over conversation.
All of these struggles seem to be on steroids now that I am blogger/influencer and have the “perfect lifestyle” pictures going around on my feeds day after day. Honestly, it can really eat at my spirit and passion. I question myself daily if I am a “good enough” blogger. I have to take a step back and remember that I am doing this influencer thing to bring myself and others joy and if that isn’t happening I need to reevaluate. I want to make sure I am painting a true picture of my life in both it’s perfections and imperfections. I don’t want to be the sugar coated blogger. I want to be real and raw but still show how proud I am of the life I get to live.
With that being said; March is a new month, spring is upon us and I want to take this time to stop and realize my perfect imperfections. Realize that I won’t do it the right way every time but know that I am trying my best and that is what is good enough for my family, friends and myself.
We have to remember those snapshots we see into other peoples lives are just that, snapshots. The bigger picture is that you define your perfect. I was reading something the other day that said something along the lines of “Stop wishing for the future (like having more kids, potty trained kids, or the perfect house). Start living in the present.” You can’t live your life dreaming constantly about the future because you will miss out on those sweet moments in everyday life.
I am reminding myself of the challenge of #yayineveryday and I hope you can join me in remembering the perfections and achievements in your day are what we should charish and don’t harp on the areas you didn’t feel were “perfect”.
XOXO Gabbing Ginger
As a blogger, especially an influencer this is a really hard struggle. I will be satisfied with something and then I see someone else get something else and there’s that momentary pang of jealousy. I loooove to support other people in their goals and share collabs and contacts etc but that pang as much as I wish it weren’t there, it comes. Isn’t it odd? It doesn’t really have to do with other people but rather like you said the perfectionism. I was just reflecting on how I feel when I get a collaboration. It’s a little boost. But, it’s not suatainable. I wish I knew the answer for this…still trying to work it out myself. ❤️❤️❤️ Very relavent read. Loved it.